Understanding the Dynamics and Culture of Turkish Host Families

Daily Life, Traditions, and Family Values

The culture, norms, and values within a Turkish host family are highly personal and dependent on individual circumstances, much like in any other country. While general family dynamics in Turkey can be discussed, it is crucial to remember that every household will have its own unique rules and expectations.

Turkey's vast geographical landscape contributes to an incredible diversity of cultural backgrounds among its people. From the more traditional Eastern regions to the cosmopolitan West, and from the Black Sea coast to the Mediterranean South, an Au Pair will constantly encounter new cultural facets.

Furthermore, Turkey is home to various ethnic groups, each contributing their own distinct norms and traditions to the broader cultural tapestry.

For a foreigner, understanding the nuances of Turkish social categorization—which Turks might discern through elements like dialect, vocabulary, or dress—can be incredibly challenging, if not impossible, to grasp quickly. An Au Pair should therefore focus on direct observation and open communication within their own household rather than attempting to decode broader social signals.

Major Cultural Groups in Turkey

Mediterranean & Aegean Lifestyle Families

Modern Big City Families

Traditional Anatolian Families

Black Sea Families

Shared Cultural Practices in the Turkish Home

Despite regional and personal differences, several cultural practices are commonly observed across most Turkish homes:

Shoe Removal: A universally respected rule is the practice of leaving shoes outside the main living area or at the entryway. Guests and family members typically wear slippers indoors.
Home Cooking: There is a strong cultural emphasis on preparing and enjoying home-cooked meals. Many Turkish families actively discourage ordering takeout, viewing home cooking as healthier, more economical, and a key element of family togetherness.
Family First: The family unit is paramount, and there is immense love and dedication, especially toward children. An Au Pair will experience a high level of involvement and focus on the children's well-being.
Dietary Norms: Due to religious and cultural reasons, pork is universally absent from Turkish cuisine, even in non-conservative households.
Love for Animals: A significant number of Turks share a strong affection for animals, particularly cats.

An Au Pair will also encounter various personal choices and levels of conservatism. These differences highlight that "Turkish culture" is not one type:

Ramadan Fasting: Some people may observe the fast diligently and completely abstain from alcohol, while others may choose not to fast and might consume alcohol, even during the Ramadan period. Here you can find and learn more about cultural and religious norms in Turkey.
Dress Code: Women may wear the hijab and prefer more modest, closed attire, while others may choose to dress in more Western, open, or casual styles.

Embracing the role of an Au Pair in Turkey is an opportunity to immerse oneself in a dynamic, multi-faceted culture. While the basic principles of warmth, hospitality, and family dedication remain constant, the specific cultural experience will be defined by the host family's unique dynamics. By remaining respectful, observant, and adaptable and understanding that cultural norms vary widely the Au Pair will have a constantly engaging and rewarding experience, ultimately gaining a profound and nuanced understanding of this rich and diverse country. The journey itself is the reward, and the experience will undoubtedly sharpen one's cultural awareness, far surpassing any simple attempt at categorization.